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Birmingham Chinese Christian Church, Birmingham, AL donation update 08/132007/08/13 We received 137 paypal and 117 personal check donations and ($18,215.00) so far . Thanks all for help. The hundredth bit is masked with "x". xinyun Guo $x10.00 Above information is provided by Feifei's husband, zhang li. 安息吧！菲菲2007/8/8
by Sunny
每当我提起笔，我的心总是颤动，眼泪挡住我的视线，无法写下去，所以一拖再拖，直到送去菲菲，我的心稍稍有点平静。
想起第一次见到菲菲的情景就在眼前。那是在两年前，她来面试，从我的Lab穿过，她面带微笑自我介绍“顾菲菲”，当时给我的感觉是那么年轻，那么漂亮，看起来是那种直率正直的人，应该容易相处。
她来到我们group后随着接触多了，了解就更多了。她是我们group中中国人最年轻的一个。她对新的东西了解得比我们多，和她象是两代人，我有不懂不明白的问她，准没错。她是个聪明活泼的女孩，肯动脑筋，肯思考，对老板交代的工作尽心尽力完成。常常发挥自己的能力，提出自己的观点，做出好的结果。她以聪明得到老板的赏识。
菲菲是个直率的人，我很喜欢和她相处，我一直把她当小妹妹看，每天下班她都叫着我们一起走，每天中午我们大家一起吃饭，这两段时间是我们交谈的时间，每天总是那样愉快，谈Emily、谈她的实验。
大约4、5月份，她和我说想改变现状让Emily过得更好些，要上商学院，我也觉得趁年轻拼一下到老了不留遗憾，所以也同意她的做法。但她自从准备GMAT以来，学得非常苦，每天晚上等Emily睡了她才看书做题至上半夜，早晨4、5点又起来做题到6:30多准备早饭叫Emily起床穿衣梳头吃饭，送Emily去Kindgarden。这两个多月来她非常非常辛苦，特别是近一个月来常给我讲看书看得头疼。我总觉得她休息太少太劳累所以头疼，象我若休息不好就会头疼，所以也没很在意。
考试的前一个星期，周六周日我帮着带Emily让菲菲好好准备。周六还好，9:30她送Emily到我家，下午5:00她来我家吃完晚饭大约8点她们回去。周日10点她送Emily来，下午2:30她就来我家了，我问她怎么这么早就过来了，她说看书看得头疼想吐，实在看不下去了，要带Emily出去逛逛。7月14日是周六，晚上我叫菲菲到我家放松一下，下午4点她带着Emily和她的小朋友到我家，她说看了一天孩子，让孩子们吵得她头疼死了！又说这次没考好，头疼得厉害，早晨吃的Telun，前两个小时还可以后两个小时药效过了，头疼得厉害，题都看不清了，想一个月后再考一次，她自信一定会拿到好成绩，我劝她成绩已经考得不错该放松放松了。她多次和我说她头疼，我只想到要么休息不好，要么感冒，要么让孩子吵的，从没往别的地方想，也没有让她看医生，所以现在觉得非常非常内疚。我知道她心脏不是很好，老怕她太累身体受不了，可她总是跟我讲“我没事，我心里有数”，反而老是劝我多注意身体，不要搞得太辛苦。
7月16日星期一中午我们一起吃饭，路上和我讲她的邻居又帮她把草坪剪了，她说应该pay她们钱，还说Terry（她一个Lab的Phob学生）给她帮了许多忙，她非常感激他。一切都非常正常。吃完饭回来她冲了杯茶又到我Lab晃了晃，刚走了也就10分钟，我一个同事告诉我菲菲去了ER。我放下东西赶快跑出去看到担架已经在电梯上，电梯门正要关上。我看到她那苍白无神的脸，一种不祥的感觉袭上心头，心里象刀割一般难受，控制不住自己的感情，当我看到她的那一刹那就觉得她永远离我而去，可能这就是人的第六感觉吧。同事们都来安慰我，可我一点也平静不下来。我带上菲菲的包和我的包与我另一个同事来到急诊室，当医院安排好病房做完紧急检查后，我来到菲菲身旁，看到她那微睁着的无任何反应的眼睛，我的心都碎了。我问护士她会听见吗？护士答或许会或许不会。我抚摸着她的脸，她的胳膊说“菲菲你一定要挺过来，你一定会好起来，Emily等着你，你怎么舍得留下Emily，菲菲你听见了吗？你会好的，一定要挺过来”，我注意到我说话前她的眼睛是干的，当我说完话，她的眼睛变湿了。这时菲菲转到8楼脑神经外科，医生不让看，我们只好等在外面，在约晚上10点多我又得以进去看菲菲。我再和她说话，她没有丝毫反应。她就这样睡过去了。凌晨2点医生让我们进去宣布她已经脑死亡。这时菲菲的脸看着很光滑，只是眼睛微张，心脏仍在跳动。我感到特别特别难受，她是那么的累，那么的苦，我都无法说出。如果菲菲不是搞得这样紧Emily不会这么早失去母爱。Emily是菲菲的全部，她的一颗心都放在Emily身上，在她心中Emily永远是第一位，她的确是个好妈妈。几个月前她告诉我每天坚持跑步，坚持锻炼，她说“我一定要把身体搞好，才会把Emily带好”，可她万万没想到超负荷劳累把自己搭进去了。她那微张的双眼是流露着她的不舍，她的牵挂，她不能安心地闭上眼是她有太多太多的牵挂。
菲菲你让我唯一有点安慰的是你没有遭受太多痛苦，只是瞬间你就离开了。尽管我不信上帝，但这时我愿有个天堂，你永远永远快乐地生活在那里，或者象现在那些穿越时空小说一样，你只是穿越到古代开始了另外一种生活。
菲菲的离去给我们带来很多痛苦，我都不知道该怎样做，幸亏Birmingham华人教会的牧师及会友们伸出博爱慈善之手，除了联合Birmingham华人同胞会，中国学生学者联谊会发动大家为Emily捐款，还承办了菲菲的追思葬礼。整个葬礼准备得非常好，“菲菲有那么多相识的人来参加你的葬礼，那么多善良的人都在帮助Emily，你在九泉之下该感到欣慰，Emily会由你的父母和她父亲照顾好的。安息吧！菲菲” Donation Update 08/062007/08/06 We received 136 paypal and 115 personal check donations and ($18,005.00) so far . Thanks all for help. The hundredth bit is masked with "x". Rong Wang $x50.00 Above information is provided by Feifei's husband, zhang li. 最新更新 Latest UpdateUpdate
2007/8/5
Dear All,
Feifei's family and us would like to express our sincere gratitude to all the people who showed their kindness, sympathies and made their donations to Feifei's family.
We would like to thank all the people who were able to attend Feifei's memorial service, especially those who helped and made everything possible. Your kindness and help are sincerely appreciated and will be deeply remembered.
Feifei's parents and younger sister will fly back to China by the end of month with Emily. They are in the process of applying for the travel certificate for Emily. Li will be staying until he finishes dealing with the aftermath of this tragic accident. Please keep them in your heart and prayer as they go through this very difficult time.
菲菲的家人和我们诚挚感谢在这次不幸事件中给与菲菲家人同情, 帮助和捐款的善良的人们. 我们特别感谢那些参加菲菲告别仪式的朋友,同事, 和其他的人. 特别感谢那些为仪式出力帮忙的朋友和教会. 您的帮忙我们真诚感激并永远铭记在心.
菲菲的父母, 妹妹将在月底带EMILY回国. 目前他们正在为EMILY办理旅行证. 张力会暂时留下处理这次不幸事件的诸多后事. 我们恳请大家为他们一家人所经历的不幸祈祷和祝福.
In memory of feifei2007/08/03 Zhang She is a great mother. Every time Emily’s name was mentioned in our small talks, and that comes up very often, you may see the proud and the motherly care for every small things Emily ever did or said. In such times, she made me think of my own mother. She is a true friend, a friend who shows up at times in need. She knows when and where to say what. At times of difficulties, she cheers you up; at times of celebrations, she is right there smiling with you. She is a creater. She is good at creating a peaceful and comfortable environment around her. People like to go around her. Her sweat smiles could melt down tensions and makes a life a tasty coffee. She is a strong woman who never feared facing challenges in life. She moved her family from China to America. She nursed a child almost single handedly for many years. And she is in her early years of her career. And yet, when we think back of Feifei, the most deep impression that comes up is her smile. She loves her country. Every time China is mentioned, she is standing firmly behind her motherland. Seldom do I see this in a Chinese woman. Feifei is a great patriot. Feifei will live in my memory as a great mother who loves her child, as a great Chinese who loves her country, as a true friend who shows herself at times in need, and as a strong woman who bravely faces challenges in life. Donation Update 08/032007/08/03 We received 135 paypal and 114 personal check donations and ($17,905.00) so far . Thanks all for help. The hundredth bit is masked with "x". Yibing Zhang $x00.00 Above information is provided by Feifei's husband, zhang li. Donation update 08/022007/08/02 We received 133 paypal and 111 personal check donations and ($16,625.00) so far . Thanks all for help. The hundredth bit is masked with "x". Jianxing ruan $x00.00 Above information is provided by Feifei's husband, zhang li. Donation Updates 08/012007/08/01 We received 132 paypal and 111 personal check donations and ($16,525) so far . Thanks all for help. The hundredth bit is masked with "x". YANJIE SUN&BO TANG $X00.00 Above information is provided by Feifei's husband, zhang li. Donation Update 07/312007/07/31 We received 131 paypal and 103 personal check donations and ($14,795.09) so far . Thanks all for help. The hundredth bit is masked with "x". Song Chen $x00.00 Above information is provided by Feifei's husband, zhang li. Donation Updates 07/302007/07/30 We received 129 paypal and 103 personal check donations and ($14,595.09) so far . Thanks all for help. The hundredth bit is masked with "x". ZHONGWU LAI&RONG QI $x00.00 Above information is provided by Feifei's husband, zhang li. Donation Updates 07/292007/07/29 We received 129 paypal and 94 personal check donations and ($13,136.21) so far . Thanks all for help. The hundredth bit is masked with "x". JINGDOU WANG&HUAPING WANG $x00.00 Above information is provided by Feifei's husband, zhang li. Donation update 07/272007/07/27 We received 128 paypal and 87 personal check donations and ($12,526.21) so far . Thanks all for help. The hundredth bit is masked with "x".
Picheng Zhao $x33.00 Above information is provided by Feifei's husband, zhang li. Donation update 07/262007/07/26 We received 126 paypal and 84 personal check donations and ($11,978.25) so far . Thanks all for help. The hundredth bit is masked with "x". XINQUN HUANG $x10.00 FAN WU $x50.00 QIN SHU $x20.00 RUILI WANG $x20.00 LINHUI ZHANG $x50.00 JULIUS HENDERSON&NATHAN HENDERSON $x00.00 LIPING SUN $x00.00 YUNFEI DING&JING YU $x00.00 LAN WU&JIE DIAO $x00.00 YINGSHI OUYANG $x00.00 Above information is provided by Feifei's husband, zhang li. The detail program of feifei's memorial service2007/07/26 Please download it if you need. It will be automatically deleted after 24 hours. Update: Please email feifeib001@yahoo.com if you still need it. 世界日报对菲菲的报道2007/07/25 http://worldjournal.com/wj-at-news.php?nt_seq_id=1567176 【本報記者張嘉琪阿拉巴馬州伯明罕報導】伯明罕阿拉巴馬大學醫學系老年醫學部門博士後研究員顧菲菲因腦血管瘤破裂於17日在該大學醫院去世，年僅34歲，留下丈夫張力與五歲女兒張嘉怡(Emily)。顧菲菲為人和善、工作勤奮，驟然過世，當地華人社區深感震驚，同表哀悼。 目 前伯明罕華人社區已發起捐款，包括伯明罕華人基督教會、伯明罕華人同胞會、伯明罕中國學生學者聯誼會等均參與，由伯明罕華人基督教會收集捐款，該教會已決 定開放一個月(7月22日至8月21日)接受各界捐款。募得款項除支付喪葬費用外，全數將用於張嘉怡將來的教育費用。支票抬頭：BCCC，註明：Care Fund，請勿寫給任何個人，否則教會根據稅法#526，不能給予退稅證明。 顧菲菲於1973年3月1日出生中國四川成都，以優異成績進入 成都重點中學─樹德中學，並於1991年考取上海華中理工大學生物工程系，每年都獲得一等獎學金，四年後回到成都抗菌素研究所繼續攻讀碩士學位。1999 年，她獲得美國阿拉巴馬大學全額獎學金，於2005年獲得博士學位。同年她在伯明罕阿拉巴馬大學從事博士後研究工作迄今。 顧菲菲的父母目前已獲得美國簽證，即將抵達此地參加顧菲菲的喪禮，時間是本月28日下午2時，在Vestavia Hills伯明罕華人基督教會舉行。顧菲菲是器官捐獻者，醫院遵從菲菲的意願和她先生的同意，顧菲菲的腎臟和眼角膜將捐贈給四名病人。 Donation updates 07/252007/07/25 We received 126 paypal and 74 personal check donations and ($11,128.25) so far . Thanks all for help. The hundredth bit is masked with "x". CHENGCUI ZHANG $x26.00 XIAOMAN ZHANG&ZHIYONG JIA $x00.00 XIMENG LIU&HONG ZHAO $x00.00 JUNXUAN ZHANG&SHAONIN JI $x20.00 YUANQING EDBERG $x00.00 QINGJUN ZHENG&XIUQING ZHANG $x50.00 XING ZHANG $x10.00 LIANG XIE&XIAOPING LIU $x00.00 XIAO HUANG $x00.00 KANA SUZUKI $x15.00 FANG TANG $x50.00 YIKE NI&DONG ZI $x60.00 ZHONGXIANG ZHAO&YE YUAN $x25.00 WEI FENG $x20.00 GUANGYU GUO $x50.00 Qiuyan Zhang $x20.00 Jennifer Tang $x00.00 Above information is provided by Feifei's husband, zhang li. 菲菲生平英文稿2007/07/24 菲菲生平英文稿， 张力提供。 Dr. Feifei Gu was born on March 1, 1973 to a well-educated family in Chengdu, China. Intelligent and diligent since her earliest years in elementary school, she was admitted to the prestigious Shu-De Middle School where she spent six years. Outgoing and confident, she was loved by her teachers and classmates. After graduating from Shu-De middle school, she was admitted to East China University of Science and Technology (ECUST) in Shanghai with a high score in 1991. During her study at ECUST, she always did her best and found herself in the top of her class. She demonstrated integrity and maturity and returned to her hometown after she graduated. There she continued to study for her master degree in Sichuan Industrial Institute of Antibiotics. In 1998, after seven years of courtship, she was married to Li Zhang. Four years later, her daughter Emily Zhang was born. Because of her love of challenges and pursuit for a better career, she gave up her easy and enjoyable life in Chengdu and moved to the United States in 1999. With the perfect TOEFL and GRE scores, she was admitted to the University of Alabama with a full scholarship. She persevered through six years of hard work to get her doctorate in 2005. Soon after, Feifei was employed as a postdoctoral fellow by the University of Alabama at Birmingham to continue her research. She was well-respected and loved by her colleagues. She was truly generous, caring and kind. Although she left us due to her sudden hemorrhagic stroke, she is survived by her five year old daughter Emily. Her love survives through her family, most of all through her daughter. Her unfettered spirit will continue to live in all of us and inspire us.Donation Update 07/242007/07/24 We received 124 paypal and 59 personal check donations and ($10,181.48) so far . Thanks all for help. The hundredth bit is masked with "x". Gang Liu $x50.00 Above information is provided by Feifei's husband, zhang li. Atlanta有人参加菲菲的告别仪式的话请跟我联系car pool2007/07/24 Atlanta有人参加菲菲的告别仪式的话请跟我联系car pool。 email: ymzhuang@hotmail.com 你先走一步，我们后会有期2007/07/24 Jun Peng 刚刚定好28日到Birmingham的机票。。。 分别有两年多了吧。。。从没想到我们这次见面竟然会是这样。 记得当年帮你和力搬家，Zhe和我曾相互抱怨拥有卡车的烦恼，可没想却因此饱尝近乎完美的川菜，让我感叹好人有好报的同时也深深被你的热情感染着。。。 从搬家到蹭饭，从朋友到邻居，从相互吹捧到互吐心声。。。我们走的那么近，。。。迪斯尼，迈阿密，Key West，Smoky Moutain。。。天南地北，一起渡过了一段段美好时光；分享着无限快乐。 力变成了兄弟，一起抽烟，一起打工；朋友也自然共享了，。。西行洛杉矶有你朋友的殷勤款待，落脚底特律又是你朋友打点着全部。。。 可是一切都是那么的短暂。。。所有的美妙又都是那么一样的一去不返。。。 菲，放心去吧，也为人父的我知道你对孩子的牵挂。。。Emily是我见过最聪明的孩子，力是有经验有福气的人，好日子在等着他们呢。 Zhe和我28日都会来飞过来为你送行的，你先走一步，我们后会有期。 注：（对了菲，JY提到力会给Emily做中国式蛋糕，做法是我亲自教的。） Update for the memorial service2007/07/24 Feifei's memorial service will be held at 2:00PM on July 28th 2007 (Saturday) in Birmingham Chinese Christian Church. 菲菲的追思礼拜将在 7/28 2:00PM(周六)在伯明罕华人基督教会举行. Birmingham Chinese Christian Church 1380 montgomery highway,Vestavia Hill,AL 35216 (205)222-8939 纪念菲菲2007/07/24 JY 认识菲菲，是因为儿子与Emily同去一个学校。后来得知她住在我家后面的Apartment里，从此两家开始频繁的来往。菲菲是个非常开朗的女孩，整天笑呵呵的。认识她不到一年，彼此成为了朋友。 认识的菲菲，是一个贴心又值得骄傲的女儿。知道父母爱看韩剧，总是搜寻最新的邮寄回国。父母的好朋友轮流借着看，都叫好，因为没有广告。这让父母很有面子。 认识的菲菲，是个宽容的妻子。尽管与张立在两个城市，却从不埋怨他。总是对我和先生说，张力是如何如何的聪明，在国内有着良好的基础。唯一的抱怨是张力对孩子的关心不够。 认识的菲菲，是个有些溺爱孩子的母亲，每天都把Emily打扮的漂漂亮亮的。对于Emily，她百依百顺。菲菲精力充沛，经常带着孩子上山下海的玩。几乎孩子所有的希望，她都去满足。尽管也会抱怨说开销太大。有时我爱说她不能太娇惯Emily，偶尔也要有大人的威严。菲菲会笑着说，我是最没有威严的家长了。其实我明白，因为Emily的爸爸不在孩子身边，菲菲想给孩子更多。 认识的菲菲，是个非常热心的朋友。常听她说如何号召实验室里的同事买网上打折的衣服、鞋子。她储存了电影和最新的连续剧。她借给朋友看，寄给家人看，自己却没有看过几个。她总是告诉我说。我哪有时间看啦。很多连续剧她只看过不到一集。她有时候会推荐一些给我看，因为朋友看了后觉得好看。 菲菲的朋友很多。周末在一起的时候，她的手机总是响个不停。有好几次，听见她在安慰人。 认识的菲菲，是个非常聪明而且工作认真的人。有时周末或晚上，她得带着孩子去实验室里做实验。她对我说，Emily已经习惯了去实验室。认识菲菲后，周末常邀请Emily到家里，只是希望让菲菲放松一下。可每次接孩子的时候，菲菲总是说，她利用这段时间做了多少多少事。去了实验室一趟，给家里全面打扫卫生，采购食物，去Mall里给Emily买了衣服。Emily的衣服又小了。。。。菲菲闲不住。 很多事情还历历在目，心里还是很难接受这件事，出事的早上，她还好好的。因为Emily流鼻血，送Emily到我家晚了些。下午在camp接两个孩子的时候，收到口信，知道她在Emergency.想着和先生一起去看看，还没来得及，菲菲的同事也到了camp，告诉我菲菲走了。我一下就傻了。人就这么离开了，一句话也没有留。在医院里，看着还有呼吸的菲菲（已大脑死亡)，怎么也不敢相信她就这么走了。她同事告诉我，菲菲一直睁着眼睛，大家都知道她放不下心Emily。小小的Emily，聪明又漂亮，能够自己编儿童故事，绘画很出色，喜欢唱歌，想做一个American idol。 一个星期过去了，大家还没有告诉Emily妈妈的事。她会问妈妈去哪里了，模模糊糊知道有什么不好的事情发生。也曾晚上醒来哭着找妈妈。幸好还有爸爸在。张力会给她做中国式的蛋糕吃，带她去游泳。希望菲菲在天国能安心。 Updated Photoes2007/07/23 Feifei's albums have been updated with a lot of new photos. If you have good photos with feifei to share, please email to us, thanks. Donation update 07/232007/07/23 We received 120 paypal and 57 personal check donations and ($9816.19) so far . Thanks all for help. The hundredth bit is masked with "x". (continued) Above information is provided by Feifei's husband, zhang li. |
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